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A Precariously Balanced Life

26 January 2019
Dear Reader,
If you've been with me since the beginning, thank you, and welcome back!

If you've just found me, welcome.
Anyway... So, 
I just wrote these words below, onto Facebook, on my personal page & I feel
they are best shared here as my intro/explanation. Of course, I will follow up with more!
*Original FB Post:
I just feel like I've been quiet for soooooo long. I wanna shout and LOL, again. I actually woke up LAUGHING this morning!
Ima be 40 in October and I've not felt this ALIVE & COMPLETE, EVER. I AM NOT a soft spoken individual, I never have been...
My nickname in Junior High & HS was MOUTH for a reason (okay, 2 reasons)...
I want AIR & LIFE & FREEDOM.
I WANT the windows open. I want to continue to feel the winds blowing turbulence of action into my soul.
I want to continue soaking in the sunshine and dancing under the moon.
I am NO LONGER OPPRESSED.
I AM NO LONGER AFRAID.
I AM STILL an amazing, loving, giving, and unapologetic WOMAN.
ROAR.
It was NEVER depression. I AM NOT Bipolar. I DO NOT SUFER from heart murmurs, chest pains, PCOS, endometriosis, ulcers, or arthritis.
I HAVE just simply carried the burdens of so many people that I LOVE, with all my heart, for sooo long.
I HAVE lived the life of a MARTYR.
THAT WAS MY CHOICE.
Now?
I CHOOSE to be HAPPY.
I've been working on this for such a long time now. And FUCK... If I was a badass bitch before, well... what's better than that?
*END*

As always, my heart is full & eternally grateful for you stopping by,

Love you forever, 
T.B. Cooper  

3/5/2018 0 Comments

So, if you wanted to know where I've been...

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Well, so do I. 

Time has a funny way of changing one's perspective. While going through the HELL of the last 14 months or so, I can't quite remember exactly, each and every emotion that made everything seem so impossible. Right now, as I've tried to be for that whole time, I'm OKAY. I'm stable mentally, yet still exhausted physically. And that's okay.

I've tried numerous times to get on here and write... something... but it never worked out. I'd written a post back in October of last year (in fact, the picture from above is FROM that day), saying everything I'd (still) like to say now, but when I backed out of it to add pictures (I was doing this in the Weebly App on my phone) the ENTIRE/Super-long post was GONE! The only thing the app had saved was my title.
And this really put a bad taste in my mouth, and made me just want to give up completely.


But, I honestly couldn't. This blog, this entire site, is a major part of my dream.

And yet, it's so much more.

I'd visited my site over the past 14 months, to see if people were still interested in my site etc.
And EVERY time I did, I was shocked to see that people WERE still visiting. 
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Below is the actual screenshot I took, January 1st of this year.
145,167 page views may NOT be a lot to most bloggers, but for me, not having blogged in a solid year...
this was & IS AMAZING!

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This gave me both HOPE & DESPAIR.

HOPE came in the wonderment that there were people out there who must like something I'm doing... either in the material I share or just my natural "witty charm" Lol. And this confirmed that I actually COULD do THIS. This whole having a presence in the world where I'm not just affecting the immediate & same set of people every day, but others as well. 

I've said before that I only started a blog and a website because I'd originally learned that to be a successful author in this technological age we live in, you'd have to have a website where folks could find you, such as prospective agents, publishers, and of course, fans.

But what I also had read was that if you're going to have a website, you might want to have a blog. And if you have a blog.... RULES #1-15 state that your site & blog should be topic/niche specific. So, if you're a writer, you talk about writing and books, etc. If you're a homesteader, you talk about homesteading. Homeschooler? Homeschooling. You like Cooking? You share recipes. You like sex, you talk about sex. You like painting: you paint.

etc. etc. etc.

But YOU ABSOLUTELY DO NOT TALK ABOUT ALL OF IT. Readers/Viewers don't like that kind of thing.

Well, then I guess they won't like me, right? 

Because I DO ALL OF THAT & then SOME.

I've spent my lifetime trying, I mean DOING & BEING, the best I can/be. Every day, day in/day out.

And now, I've proven that assumption wrong, at least to myself, that I'd have to focus on one topic. This blog/website, has at times, been my only source of solace. Of course, at times, I've wanted to delete EVERY one of my websites & Social Media accounts, and have a huge bonfire in my yard, burning every scrap of writing, ideas, dreams, that I've ever had.... quite a few times, recently, actually.

That's where the DESPAIR comes in. Despairing about am I ever going to be able to get back to it again? Have I lost my momentum? My give a F*@K? I don't think I have. I have had some serious ups & downs... some major set-backs... But I've also been through worse. Like I said in my post from the other day, I think it's just where I'm at at this stage in my life. Stuck between a few generations of lives that depend on me a bit more now, than they ever have.

I think sometimes about what I've done wrong in my life. What I might've done differently so I could've raised my kids with a bit more money to go places, better food, nicer homes before we finally found this one that's become our dream home...

I have a hard time answering that question, though. I don't HAVE regrets. I make choices after much deliberation. So...? I COULDN'T have done any of it differently. That would conflict with and invalidate every one of my careful and thoughtful decisions I've ever made.

So, my kids grew up appreciating life, just a little bit more. They understand it more. They love, a little MORE. That's important. 

My goals with writing, this ambitious path I've chosen for MYSELF, is a much harder task to pursue, than the tasks that come easy to me, such as growing people & leading by example & fixing even the most severe of "normal" life problems.

I didn't grow up with a Role-model or Mentor. I was & remain, my OWN mentor/advisor. I take the most comfort in reading MY OWN words of wisdom. And to be clear, I am NOT narcissistic. I am an INTJ & a LIBRA, which does make for a pretty f*@ked up mentality for most people to comprehend, let alone for one of "us" to remain stable.

Libras are diplomatic, INTJs are the Masterminds... PLUS, I'm FEMALE. So I have this emotional side that needs to take a back burner to my natural logical side that can see both sides to each argument, but can still passionately HATE the side that doesn't favor justice. Look, it's just a mind f*@k, and I've been precariously un-balanced for about a year, and most of that has been my needed involvement helping others. My own issues were by no means minor, they were just harder to get through because my focus had already been diverted, which in turn, takes away from my mental abilities to block the "pains" of my afflictions, both old (endometriosis, PCOS, bipolar depression) & new(the car accident gave me a concussion/temporary speech impediment/memory loss/a sudden inability to multitask & irreparable back pain for life)...

But all in all, I'm okay. I'll be okay. There isn't another option. I chose this life. I also chose to pursue my dream of writing & writing EVERYTHING. 

I changed my "motto" on Facebook to:

"My mission in life: To change the world, one person at a a time. If I can be a Happy Bitch, so can you!"

and dammit, if that's not true.

That's why I've started writing a couple of scripts for some Youtube videos, practicing recording myself...
That's why I started my hipOrcriticalview Tumblr account...
That's why I signed up for Emily's List...
That's why I'm NOT STOPPING.
Roadblocks, obstacles, forks... bring it on. I've been through Hell enough times, that I'm just not scared anymore.
I haven't been in such a long time... 

I haven't lost it, because my strength, my alter ego, my "other personalities"... whatever that force from within I choose to call it ...
that side of me will NOT LET ME STOP. Period.

I know, this post really didn't explain any of what I've been going through, and I think it's mostly left un-detailed because I've emotionally been detached from much of it. And since emotions are what help store memories in our own little databases we call brains, I really wouldn't even know where to start to unfold the detailed drama that has spanned the previous 14 months.

All I can say, is that if I'm not on here, but you still want to see what I'm up to, check out my Tumblr accounts, or Facebook, or my Instagram, or Twitter, or Pinterest... those I'm easily on almost everyday, and ONLY because the app versions are more friendly and usable while I'm out doing chores on the farm or wherever else in this world, I am needed at any giving time.

You can link to those accounts mentioned by clicking one of the social icons at the top of this post, or going to my Contact Me page.
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2/28/2018 0 Comments

I just went through my saved drafts & deleted 6 never finished posts!

Like, honestly... what the HELL?

I have seriously tried (more than 6 times) to post to this blog over the past 14+ months or so, but EVERY SINGLE TIME I've attempted to get the time to post anything either I get interrupted, or the draft doesn't get saved when I try to upload corresponding pictures, or I am too tired after my 18-20 hour day to even look at my computer screen, or I can't even find my computer desk under the piles of unopened mail/un-filed papers/ folded laundry etc....

..... yeah, see, I started this at 5:30 pm & it is now 7:39 pm... interruptions...

when did it all become so complicated?

I think it has everything to do with the stage in life that I'm at. I mean, maybe. I'm 38. Three of my four kids are adults, with the youngest not far behind. So that entails them ready to spread their wings, but needing that extra guidance into adulthood. My husband is 43, and has discovered more grays than he's ready for (the house is 90% female occupied). Our parents are aging and so are we. We already have one grandbaby, who is almost 7... add in the family extensions and the farm... yeah, that's probably enough to do anyone in & cause a mental breakdown.

Then compound matters with yearly & semi-yearly/or monthly, unexpected WTFs and I'm surprised anyone can survive...
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okay. Interruption #what number, now?

F*@k it. I'm done. Goodnight!

I'll try again tomorrow.
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2/27/2018 0 Comments

Just wanted to make a quick announcement, give some updates & let ya'll know I'm still here!

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"Possibilities" ©T.B. Cooper
Okay, so first off.... this isn't the post where I explain where the Hell I've been for more than a year... that'll come later.

This also isn't the post where I catch up for work I haven't got done, like reviews/recipes/and Meal Plans... sorry!

But, this is the post where I say Hi, and I've been doing things, and here they are...
#1 If you haven't seen yet the page I created just for my Mom & her awesome amazingness...
​be sure to check it out, by clicking below on her lovely picture.
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My Mommy
#2 I am now on Instagram and Tumblr
#3 I've added two more pages to this site. Both are NOT for everyone. While I won't necessarily say "viewer discretion is advised",
I WILL say that there are probably some out there that wouldn't agree with what I CHOOSE to put on them.

The first one is called hipOrcriticalview and I've basically linked it to my secondary Tumblr account, which is where I've started writing thoughts from my darker side... my cynical side... my diplomatic and Devil's Advocate side. This account is part diary & journal, and part collective writing platform, for the thoughts and ideas I want to share... but don't want to wait 20 years before I've gathered them and polished them to publish them as a Grand & Epic thesis on Human Nature, etc.

The second one is my ARTIST page, and I'm actually quite excited about sharing it with you, although I'm sure there will be MANY who will feel offended. And honestly, I've spent my entire life, living for everyone else, making everyone else happy, and still most people don't quite understand me... and that's fine. I'm just tired of not doing what makes ME HAPPY. Blogging about anything and everything, two years ago, made ME HAPPY. Well, I DESERVE to be HAPPY. PERIOD.

​So, anyway... check those pages out if you're curious about a few of the different sides of "me".
#4 I'm REALLY, really, really trying to get to the point where I can actually blog again, regularly,  AND do some YouTube videos. That's what I've ultimately been working towards whenever I've gotten two minutes to myself. Which has been a challenge...

But that's for ANOTHER post...

​I'll catch you up soon.

Until then...

here's hoping you, too, find your HAPPY!
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1/2/2017 0 Comments

FREE Meal Planning Course--Lesson #3.2.1 Subsection #A (January's Meal Calendar/Planners)

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So, I know it's totally NOT the first, nor is it still December where it would be acceptable that I am JUST NOW putting this up...

BUT...

There's always a BUT(t) where I'm involved (it's a big ASS joke, for those of you that didn't get it or don't know about my large derrière) LOL.

With being sick (still) and New Year's being on the 1st, and family not having left until yesterday, and cleaning/putting Christmas away...

Well, I just kinda didn't even want to think about shopping (or cooking). But now, I am just about out of all of my meal preps/pre-makes, and so tomorrow morning--pretty damn early because I don't even have stuff to make the hubby lunch (who-thankfully-is going back to work finally!)-- I will be going grocery shopping and then spending the next two to three days Meal Prepping and filling the freezers etc.

So, as you can see from the following calendars, I did originally "plan" for the 1st and the 2nd, but then I lined through them because--
I'm freaking tired! Like, damn... I am TIRED. I am tired of cooking. I am tired of cleaning... Remember, I said I 'spring clean' in the winter?
Yeah, I'm still not anywhere near done, but--Winter is nowhere near over, either.

Thank goodness!!

Yet, I am FULL of renewed energy and excitement for the NEW YEAR.

I have SO MUCH planned... 

But that is for another post.
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You will (hopefully) notice that there are some menu items that have *recipe written next to or under it.
At the bottom of this post, I have included pictures with links to the sites these recipes are from.
I found them all on Pinterest! You can also peruse my Pinterest boards by clicking any of the below links...
BTW, I'm not sure why my Breakfast board has non-breakfast items in it--that is something I just noticed but haven't had enough time to address/fix it--yet.

My Pinterest Board Links:
Breakfast

Crockpot Recipes​

​Casseroles

​Asian Inspired Foods

Must be Italian Food​

Latin Inspired Food

Island Food

Fish & Game Recipes

As always, if you have any questions, please Do NOT HESITATE to Contact me.
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Raspberry Swirl Sweet Rolls from (One of my FAVORITE sites) Sally's Baking Addiction
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Spinach and Cheese Stuffed Shells from Cooking Classy
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Coffee Cake Muffins from Damn Delicious
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Mint Chocolate Chip Pancakes from The Idea Room
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Creamy Cajun Chicken Pasta from Food.com
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Breakfast Lasagna from Jones Dairy Farm
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(One of my Favorites!) Overnight Praline French Toast from The Kitchen is My Playground
AND...

If you need the Calendars/Planners and don't want to go looking for them... here they are--

mealplanningbreakfastcalendar_tbcooper.pdf
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mealplanninglunchcalendar_tbcooper.pdf
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mealplanningsnackcalendar_tbcooper.pdf
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mealplanningdinnercalendar_tbcooper.pdf
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weeklymealplanner__tbcooper.pdf
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****Print one each of the calendars + 5 Planners
And in case you've missed any of the PREVIOUS LESSONS...

Announcing the FREE Meal Planning Course(Why I Meal Plan & how my method is Different)
Lesson #1 (Meal Planning Binder, Calendars & Grocery Lists)
Lesson #1.5 (How I Organize Meal Planning in the Household)
Lesson #2 (How to Make your Grocery Lists for the Month)

Lesson #2.5 (Meal Prep Kitchen Necessities)
Lesson#3 (My Secret to Meal Planning Success)

Thanksgiving Lesson
Thanksgiving Recipes Part#1 S'mores, Turkey, 2 Hams, Stuffing

Lesson #3.2 (December's Meal Planning Calendars & Planners)
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12/27/2016 0 Comments

It's not ALL Rainbows & Sunshine... Okay, maybe a double rainbow was included in this post--it happens!

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Christmas Eve... looking out at Mt. Charleston.
Well... Christmas is over (yay!), and I am not ashamed to admit that I couldn't wait for it to be done.
​This was probably the worst Holiday season I've experienced in a while.

But is that me complaining? No.

​Because reflection and understanding are better than hindsight and regrets.
Oh yeah, I'm tweeting that one... #Reflection and Understanding are better than Hindsight and Regrets. 
I hate that my household has been back and forth with the cold or flu for what seems like the entire holiday season, and I hate that I've been sick specifically on Thanksgiving AND Christmas. BUT, this is a household of 12, when my friend and her daughter are over (which btw, they're moving in next year-- but into a separate home on the property) then there are 14 of us. When my brother visits--during the holidays twice a month-- there are 18. Which, is kinda a lot to cook for, clean up after, keep the peace with, and at Christmas--shop for.

Add to my crazy family life and farm life and homeschooling, all things I've spent what feels my entire life perfecting my methods of planning and execution, the supreme and ultimate desire I have to be the writer I've always felt I was inside... and then it's no wonder I've been sick and stressed and ate two pounds+ of yummy See's chocolate and smoked more than a couple of cigarettes after having lost nearly 40 lbs. this year and having not smoked for three years.
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I love this picture... I'm not sure if you can see it or not, but it was a halo around the full moon, earlier this month. For me, this is a contemplative image... I'm not sure why...
Yeah. I did. I fell off the wagon--sort of. My daughter will probably kill me after reading this (if she does). Am I 'smoking' again? No. I quit cold turkey before, I can quit again. Plus, I'm trying to get pregnant next year... Okay, I know what you're thinking... wtf?!! Don't you have enough family members? Yes, but my children are biologically not my husband's. And we've spent the last ten years of marriage with my tubes tied, working on all of those adult issues like family problems, alcoholism, house-buying, DUI, teenagers, budgets, death, parent/child role-reversal... etc. There wasn't time or money (to get the tubes reversed) to have another kid.

It hasn't been easy, and that's saying it nicely. I'm bipolar with all my other issues, and my husband battles depression and an addictive personality (he is the recovering alcoholic). And yet, through it all, we have given 'our' kids a healthy home to grow up in. In ten years they have only heard us fight/loud argue two, maybe three times. When they talk about their future relationships, they describe a desire to have what my husband and I share (as do most of my family members and single friends). They understand that things will not always be rainbows and sunshine, but that you work through it and respect each other, and always be loving and affectionate, as well as sarcastic and able to take a joke. 

Cussing and bad words are allowed in my house. I, for one, cuss like a sailor. Of course, they can't cuss when they are young and inexperienced, like if they haven't lived through some sh*t. My son cusses worse than I do, but he remembers a time when it was just him, me and his sister, and we were homeless living in a car. So yes, he may cuss. Thankfully it's mostly when he is on his Xbox. Hearing him scream like a bitch when he loses is quite comical... just saying.

Anyway. I know I'm rambling. I guess I'm just thrilled to be able to finally sit at my desk again. Plus, seeing that once again, this month more than 8,000 of you have stopped by to see 'me,' makes me happy. This blogging has thoroughly become part of my 'oxygen' that I need. It has become a habit. Yes, I suppose I do need a habit. And I think blogging is far more healthier than smoking, wouldn't you agree?

So with the reflection and understanding, I accept that this is just the ebb and flow of things. I've taken on a great deal of tasks that in and of each individual one, are stressful. I chose this life, and I wouldn't change a thing. I'm living how I choose to. I'm building strong and caring people, and I'm chasing my dreams in front of my kids, living as an example of how to make your goals, realities... I'm letting them see that a dream is good, but the hard work that leads to the payoff makes the reward that much better.

Lazy doesn't exist in my household.
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So... here's to 2017. We as a people have experienced a tumultuous year. This is the year that everything has changed, and yet, we are still in control of how the future plays out... even if it feels like we aren't...

Things will definitely never be the same, and that excites me. I hope you can harness some of that energy as well, and approach the unknown expanse of time ahead of us with just as much enthusiasm.

Thank you again for supporting me and reading all about my precariously balanced life... seeing my ups and downs while I try to keep it as real as possible with you.

​**Life's a dance--you learn as you go!
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    Hello!

    I’m T.B. Cooper, and I’m very excited to share my life with you. In between living on Pinterest, voicing political views of Equality (on Pinterest, Twitter and Tumblr), running an atypical farm in the Southern Nevada Desert, spiritually guiding & advising & fixing lives, and schooling my kids plus a bunch of others' kids (...that I'm not sure how they got here); you’ll find me fighting for desk space with my cats, attempting to keep their hair out of my tea, plugging my nose 'cause my bulldog likes to sleep & fart next to me, trying to actually do some work that makes ME happy…

    I'm a woman of many traits and talents, some are better than others. In this Blog you'll find a little bit of everything. And I DO mean EVERYTHING!

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